Should you judge your partner by his/her past?
The past should be the past, and once you’ve moved on, good sense would dictate that what you did in the past shouldn’t matter. But for many people, when choosing a partner, a lot depends on how much of a past they had. Is it easy to overlook a past that is filled with infidelity, lies and deception?
I couldn’t be with a man who has 50 babymothers and not think twice. I would be a foolish not to judge him for that.
You have to judge when in a relationship because a leopard can’t change its spots. So if a guy I am dating tells me he has never been in a committed relationship, for example, that would be an immediate red flag for me.
My wife has a past and to be honest, I am not proud or happy about it. But I love her to death and I don’t use her past to judge her because I see that she has changed and that she is not her past. I know a lot of men could never overlook certain things but love will overlook the past.
I think it is really unfair for women to accept a man and his dirty past and if he hears that you had a past too, he scorns you. Women are human too so we make mistakes too.
Of course I’ll judge because I’m not ‘wifing’ up a woman with a past. Body count matters to a real man who knows that only impeccable women should be wives.