I was a sex worker and my husband didn't know
SHE was married for 11 years. Very often her husband would take her from one location to another, sometimes helping to carry her large bag containing 'hair products'. She was a hairdresser making house calls — or so he thought.
Beneath the hair products, stashed neatly in her bag, were condoms, sex toys and lingerie. Lois, as she prefers to be called, was a married call girl.
"Some men don't know the dark side of us," Lois said. "For many a working girl there is a husband or a boyfriend who may not know about her trade."
At other times, when she wanted to make the trips alone, she would concoct stories of going to the supermarket, or anywhere else that he would not find suspicious, but diverted to conduct 'business', collected her money, and went back home innocently. He was none the wiser.
She told All Woman last Wednesday how she would go in to her clients, satisfy their often unconventional sexual desires, then call her husband for pick-ups. However, minutes before he arrived, she would plug in her hot iron stove then place it on the floor of the car. Thus he would have no reason to doubt she had just completed a hair appointment.
"And when he picked me up, sometimes I would let him drop me somewhere else with another client," she grinned.
For the 11 years her marriage lasted, her husband didn't know she was satisfying between six to nine other men per day, then returning home to play wife.
Her second husband was no different. She was living in England, and after her husband left for his eight to five job daily, she would reach for her hidden telephone, plug it into a jack that she had secretly installed behind their sofa and call up men.
"I just got busy and started making my calls," Lois, who is now in her 40s recalled. "And when the clients came, I would do my thing on his (husband's) side of the bed. He didn't know anything at all. To this day, neither of my two husbands know.
Business was so good while in England that she rented a flat and continued there full time, again under the guise of hairdressing. Her second marriage, she explained, ended after four years when her husband was unable to deal with the fact that she was earning more than he was.
"Sex workers are people who have lives and who love like everyone else," she said. "Having sex for money doesn't make a person unable to have a relationship."
She said while these workers are looked down on, especially by other women, it is the husbands of these women who keep them in business, and these women would be shocked to know what their husbands are doing.
"These wives would be shocked to know who these men are sleeping with and the kind of services that they come in to us for," Lois said.
"Men have split personalities," she surmised. "One is where he has a decent woman who he dares not ask or mention his fantasy to, and the other has a personal, or many, sex workers that he sees regularly for those freaky, deep fantasies."
Lois has been in the trade for almost 20 years and said she loves what she does.
"It's not that I can't come out of it now, but I love my work," she said. "When you love something that you do, you don't want to leave it."