The secret to dating success

By Miss Kes

Thursday, June 14, 2018

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It is totally understandable when someone who is not sure if they desire to enter into a relationship decides to stay on the fence for safety. It is however not the best idea to remain on the fence indefinitely.

So if you see someone and you are interested in the pursuit, you can admire, but admire in a manner that opens the person up to you. Admiration doesn't necessarily mean watching with the eyes only, but it also means opening a door to possible friendship.

Below are guidelines for removing the barriers and opening the door to a healthy relationship.

Step #1: Observe and open the communication portal

A lot of people are waiting on God to open the sky and drop a man/woman before them. Unfortunately, God doesn't operate in that manner. He gives opportunities and points you in the direction for you to see. Now, if you close your eyes to it, blame no one when you are lonely and miserable. When you see someone you are attracted to, move to them and start a light conversation. If they don't warm up to it, then disappear. If they do, then open up the communication portal by the exchange of numbers/e-mail addresses/social media.

Step #2: Casual dating

After a few weeks of getting to know “light” details about each other, it is perfectly safe to go on casual dates like a walk in the park or even lunch. Share lives! If after a few dates you realise that this person is totally incompatible with you, be respectful about breaking off any possibilities of a relationship. But if the person meets several of your standards, then dating each other more should be encouraged.

Step #3: Cultivating a relationship

A relationship is not emotions totally; it is a decision. So after dating for several months and both parties are comfortable being true to who they are, they both need to make a decision to be with each other, which means total commitment. This will require serious investment of time, respect, and ultimately your heart.

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