Relationships are usually sweet and exciting in the beginning – there's the anxiety, the rapid heartbeat, the late night phone calls, the constant WhatsApp messages, and the fantasies. Then months or years down the line, the relationship gets “boring”, people become complacent and bogged down by the drudgeries of life. But stoking the embers is critical if you want to keep the fire going for the long haul, and as such you must:
1. Spend time getting to know each other inside out. Spend time to know the person's background, their likes and dislikes because the butterflies will die and you will need this knowledge to rekindle the romance.
2. Spend time apart. When you are always around someone, it makes you a bit complacent and this can get dangerous because you can find yourself taking your significant other for granted. Hang out with your friends and family.
3. Do small acts of kindness and show gratitude. Men, if you know your lady loves chocolate, get her some occasionally. Send a bouquet at work – surprise her! Women, spice it up in the bedroom. Call him over to talk and when he gets through the door, showcase your sexuality. Get creative!
4. Realise that no one is perfect so you will become complacent at some point in the relationship. However, don't sit in complacency! The moment you find yourself sitting in complacency, drag yourself out of it.
Relationships should be nurtured and treasured and the best way to establish this is to build your union on trust and ultimately love. Stop complaining and be grateful for the person you share your life with. If you feel like your relationship is complacent, work to change it!