Unequally yoked socially

All Woman

When we choose mates, one of the key things not to compromise on is ensuring compatibility. This comes in the form of likeness in how you'll manage money, treat with parenting, the religion you'll adhere to, and even things like staying within your social and class structure.

The benefits of compatibility, experts will tell you, is that it allows for a smoother transition from single to coupled-up, as the couple navigates what can be a rocky road. But are some areas that compatibility is recommended in open for amendment? For example, is getting together with someone who is outside your social sphere economically a recipe for disaster?


My foreparents were slaveowners and my family, for generations, inherited all that money and power when they passed. I was basically very well taken care of. I remember in my teens when they allowed me to go to public school and I met this guy who was the opposite of me and that alone pulled me to him, to be honest. My parents balked at the idea of us together, but I would still secretly see him. Many times I gave him my lunch and money. We grew closer over the years of secretly seeing each other until I became pregnant at 18 years old. My parents almost killed me when I confessed. He is now the CEO of a top company and my husband. This social class thing is rubbish and just another means to create strife. Love cares zero about your background.


I do believe there are some merits to the social class theory. As an educated woman, I personally could not date a man who was not educated because we would have nothing in common and that is the perfect antidote to kill me mentally. Compatibility is everything to me so for me to be with a “street” guy, it would be a total disrespect to social status as I could add to his life but it would deplete me. To be frank, I couldn't date anyone with anything less than what I can give in a relationship.


I married my first husband because I wanted to make my parents and everyone in my circle and family proud of me. What they couldn't see was his infidelity and physical abuse. Anytime I expressed my unhappiness to my mother, she told me about his money and his status. I decided a few years ago to walk away and yes, my family and friends were disappointed in me for doing this. I am currently single and I am not looking for any man with money and no love. I want love.


I have dated uneducated me and I see the same qualities in the educated and wealthy men. Man is man regardless of class or race. I judge no one based on their background. I am very well off in my life right now but I wasn't always. I came from humble beginnings so I don't judge. I am seeking a meaningful relationship based on love and honesty.


I don't see what an educated woman and uneducated man have in common. I mean, what are you going to talk about? That is a waste of time.




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