It is quite normal to have fantasies and dreams, and many of us do so, regardless of whether or not we are in serious relationships. Fact is, you can't help what you dream about, and some people have torrid affairs in their sleep, much to the chagrin of their partners.
But is it practical for you to get upset if your partner gets intimate with other people in their dreams?
My dreams almost cost me my marriage. It was like I couldn't control this woman from my work in my dreams. I was sweating and moaning, according to my wife, and calling her name, and that was where all hell broke loose. My wife thought I was having an affair with this woman when I have never even touched her. This went on for weeks until my wife went to live with her mother. I had to get therapy. It was real.
I used to dream almost every night of having sex with this guy I met in a store. Guilt would eat me because this would happen right after having sex with my man. I felt so awful that I confessed to him about what was happening and that affected our intimacy for sure.
My man was having some serious things happening one night to the point where I had to slap him out of his sleep. I knew for sure he was having sex in his dreams. I felt so disrespected even though I knew it was just a dream. Then a few months after, it started happening with me. It got severe I had to go to counselling because I was having orgasms. I felt like I had no control.
If my man is having sex in his dreams he is cheating and for me that is a clear sign to end that relationship. Our mind is still active when rested so it must be that his mind is on someone else, not me, and that for me a big diss.