MEN, like women, struggle with feelings of inadequacy in one department or another. It's human nature, no matter how confident or proud we are, that there is always some uncertainty about something like a lurking shadow that we harbour. And while the fairer sex is more open to sharing the source of their insecurities, it's less likely that you will find men who are willing to talk about theirs.
But we managed to find a few who were willing to bare the details of the insecurities that keep them up at night.
CH, 43, mechanical engineer:
I'm most insecure about my mental health. I don't want a partner who thinks her man is weak because I have panic attacks and struggle really hard with anxiety. I usually just try to play it off, but it's not easy to do so, or to talk about it.
Kemar, 35, teacher:
I'm most insecure about my belly region. I have a beer belly. I'm working on it, but it takes away from the swag and the cha-cha boy look, you know. Worse, mi a face man, but I have this gut!
I'm insecure because I have recurrent sinus infections. Most times I can keep them under control, but I always have a handkerchief covering my mouth when I speak or I walk away and cover up when I sneeze, because if I am having one of those episodes the smell can be embarrassing. So even when things are good and I don't have that problem it's always in the back of my mind that hey, this may be happening.
Lennon, 40, contractor:
I am most insecure about my past. I have done a few less than glorious things in relationships and even in friendships and I worry about them ruining things for me. So a lot of times the getting-to-know-me part of friendships and relationships can be nerve-wracking. Sometimes I get a little defensive about certain subjects and then I get worried about whether or not it would make the women suspicious.
Lloyd, 45, business owner:
I think I'm most insecure about my size. I am told I have a nice shaft and that I really know how to use my tool. But looking down from up here he really doesn't look that big. If I am to be honest, I think the women don't want to say how weird it looks or admit that it's just average... or less than. Most times the reaction seems genuine, but you know how women lie already — they will convince you that you are IT then tell their friends how terrible you are as soon as you drop them off.
A, 51, teacher:
I would say my insecurity is whether I am masculine enough. You know a man should lead the family, be the breadwinner, and be able to hide his emotions, etc. But in my family I am not that, if I am to be honest. My wife makes more than I do so she contributes more to the family. She is more vocal and so most times I allow her (she has her head on right) and I trust her. I am also very emotional and vulnerable and those are all the things society says I should not be. So, of course, I am insecure about this. I don't think I am ashamed, but I just would rather keep this private; it keeps the judgement away.