THESE days a person's phone holds more secrets than a priest in a confessional. Hacking into this instrument can uncover the most startling revelations, especially if you suspect that your partner is being unfaithful. As a few readers share below, snooping disclosed much more than they bargained for.
Davia, 30, teacher:
About a year ago I was with this man and he was the soft type — a “Christian” man. One day he left his phone sitting on the bed and went outside (his friend had stopped by unannounced) and I decided to scroll through. My dear friends, the content of the messages were... let's just say they were not the kind you would expect from a deacon in charge of youth. I wasn't even mad, I was just disappointed, because I don't like two-faced people. By the way, I was his girlfriend, and we rarely talked dirty, certainly never at the level he did in any of those conversations.
Latoya, 27, teacher:
Searching my then boyfriend's phone is how I discovered he was planning to marry me. I regret having read it, because I felt bad to think he was cheating and I spoiled my surprise. Oh, and it was really hard pretending to be surprised!
Shanae, 27, student:
If you say that you have never searched your man's or woman's phone, you are lying. The number of times that I've seen something that I wish I could unsee, even though I would still want to know, I would be rich. Now I only do it for curiosity, not because I want to check up on my man, but because I already know what I want to know.
Charm, 45, business owner:
They say that you cannot teach an old dog new tricks, and I proved that in the case of my fiancé. This man and I were going well, we were preparing for our wedding and everything, and then I realised that he was always on his phone. We had gotten the newest version iPhones. I saw him putting on lock this and lock that, and his excuse was in case someone stole it his data would get wiped. I said fine. One day he gave me the phone to call someone and when I was done I just clicked to look at the pictures he had taken on our outing the Sunday before, and let me tell you, I have never seen so many female private parts before in my life. It was obvious those weren't downloaded from the Internet. He eventually confessed to being not physically, but emotionally tangled with two of these women and begged for my forgiveness. The passwords are no longer on his phone and we are now in counselling.
Claude, 29, IT specialist:
My girl and I had rented a place somewhere. A number of men lived downstairs and the upstairs was a mixture of both men and women. It so happened that her phone was dead, and because she would be away studying all day at the library, I told her to take mine and leave hers to charge. I turned on the phone when it charged up and couldn't immediately get into it, so I used my banger to call it and then I got access. Would you believe that this girl, my partner of two years who I walked downstairs with every day, was entertaining one of the tenants down there? And I don't care that nothing happened, I just packed up my stuff and went to my brother's place. I never did go back to her nor did I speak to her about it. When she managed to contact me I just told her it was over.
Kerry, 22, bartender:
I was dealing with this guy, and people kept telling me that they'd see him go to places with go-go dancers all the time. I didn't disbelieve them, but if he was just going there and looking, it wouldn't be bad. But based on a conversation I saw on his phone with him and his friend, I knew that his mouth could never come near mine again. Even now my stomach gets sick every time I think about it.