|Flirting while in a relationship is disrespectful.
RELATIONSHIPS can feel like torture when they're nearing the end. And sometimes cutting a clean break is impossible when you have exes who are bent on making sure your life is a nightmare.
All Woman asked readers who admitted to throwing low blows in a bid to get back at their partners to share some of the worst things they did, and these confessions will shock you.
Patricia, 46, businesswoman:
I left him with nothing and made sure that what payment [for furniture] was not completed on was repossessed. He wanted to be a kept man and was still wilding out. I asked for one thing — loyalty — but he made me a laughing stock instead.
Tianna, 36, banker:
I helped my man's ex-wife file for maintenance and full custody of his kids. I did it out of revenge, not because she was the better parent.
April, 38, business development manager:
I cancelled his insurance within days of him calling it quits because I knew he would need to pick up his medication. I felt bad after and offered to start paying it again, but he wouldn't accept it because he said I had not grown up and he didn't want to play games with me.
Natalia, 45, store owner:
I maxed out my credit card buying witch spells online to cast a curse on him, and when that didn't work I paid a local obeah man hundreds of thousands of dollars to make him go mad. This went on for months, until I was convinced that it was working, because he lost his job, his car, his woman, and his house. Nowadays he's always at the rum bar looking scruffy and always begging people money. I feel guilty sometimes because I have moved on, but at that time I couldn't get over the pain of him betraying me by choosing to be with my best friend. I would turn back the spell if I could, but I'm not spending so much money again, plus I'm a Christian now.
Tirelle, 28, advertising sales agent:
I went on social media and unleashed tirades over several days. I was merciless, but it was because I had so much pent-up anger from the hurt she caused me after I was good to her. I told the world the things she told me about vulnerable points in her life, and when I was conscious of myself again, I was more ashamed of myself than for her because I know better.
Sammi, 29, nail technician:
I don't even know which one to choose, honestly, but I guess that I can say that it was between that time when I poisoned all the fish in his tank, though the poor fish didn't do me anything; or when I just decided to sleep with my ex-boyfriend's stepbrother, who is his biggest rival, then sent him photos. He was deeply hurt. I was satisfied though, and I found out why he can't stand his stepbrother.
Antwan, 36, graphic designer:
I repossessed the oxygen machine that I had bought for her mom a few months before. I also behaved really badly when I went to collect it. Sitting and looking back, her mother is a good person and I shouldn't have allowed a desire to hurt my ex to sabotage a good woman. I wanted to send it back to her anonymously, but I am too ashamed to even do that.
Lenae, 33, sous chef:
I put laxatives in a cake that I sent him at his workplace and washed his undergarments in cayenne pepper. It didn't erase the pain caused by his cheating, but the fact that he was in some amount of physical pain gave me some comfort.
Alvin, 39, correctional officer:
I went to her workplace and showed her boss the things that she was saying about her, including how the lady was 'bad mind' and was underpaying her and keeping back money and bonuses from clients for herself. She got suspended and since she was treated like an outcast, she just had to leave because of the pressure. I don't regret doing it.